This week I've been noticing when I am feeling stressed and I have been saying to myself "I give myself permission to fully feel this." Somehow this statement helps me to really accept what I am experiencing. I stop resisting the feeling.
There are many stressors throughout each day and there is a tendency to skip over many of the little ones or try to handle the situations instead of being with the feelings. For example, worrying if the weather is going to be good for the beach party on Friday might prompt me to check the weather forecast instead of sitting with the feeling. I can't control the weather. I can't predict the weather. When I stop resisting the feeling I am free to actually deal with the situation instead of having to deal with the discomfort about the weather.
Being concerned about how my kids are going to do on their final exams may cause me to tell them to study (which may or may not be the best thing to do) instead of staying centered and deciding how to handle the situation wisely. If I don't accept that there is inner discomfort about their final exams, I will be acting in ways that take care of my discomfort instead of acting in ways that take care of the situation (e.g., my kid's study habits).
Most of us experience inner discomfort often throughout each day. If we don't accept the discomfort we will be trying to make it go away...in essence we are reacting to our discomfort instead of reacting to what is right in front of us. This is what The Untethered Soul is all about.
In my personal experience as well as in my work with clients I have found that one of the best ways to let go of feelings is to stop resisting them. The nature of feelings is to move through us, but we need to stay with the feelings in order for that to happen.
Stay tuned for my next blog post about how this state of acceptance leads us towards an awakened consciousness.
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