As I was finishing up a run on Friday PM, it struck me that I need to let go of judgments, all judgments including judgments of myself, others, situations etc. Since then I have noticed many things about judging. My judgments are often subtle, a little criticism here and there about how I need to do better at this and that, or about how another person is wrong... Sometimes my judgments are not so subtle.
I can not emphasize enough how much freer I feel when I let go of judgments. I now realize that judgments serve absolutely no purpose in my life. It seems that one of the ways that I have used judging is to keep myself safe. If I evaluate who or what I am dealing with, I can make better decisions about who or what is safe. Not so. I am finding that as I let go of judgments I am more centered and clear, and therefore it is much easier for me to deal with life. Life is so much simpler when I do not judge. Adya and Michael Singer talk about "accepting life as it is showing up" and "dealing with what is right in front of us" and I find that I can do this so much easier without judgments.
It is not always easy to let go of judgments, and, it requires a lot of focus to notice when I am judging. I am changing some of my judgments to preferences (e.g., "I prefer to read this book" as opposed to "I do not like that book."). Putting so much energy into what we do and do not like seems to be a waste of energy. Michael Singer gives an example of how we might feel if our new neighbors turned out to be hillbillies. Instead of judging them, why not view them as interesting? Does it serve any purpose to judge others just because they are different?
Judgments come from the neurotic roommate not from the Self. I choose to let them go. I know this will be a process and I do not judge myself for the times that I mess up! :)
I am so grateful for the awareness that this is what I need to do in order to grow into a greater awareness of who I am. Thank you God.
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