A comment was made about what to do with the emotions/pain once they have been identified. The nature of feelings is to pass through you. Think of a small child whose balloon has just popped. The child will cry as if their heart is broken for just a minute or so and then they will happily move on to something else.
This is not how most of us respond to pain by the time we have reached adulthood. When some kind of loss or painful event happens the energy of the event (i.e., the pain) stays stuck because we do not allow it to pass through. First we may not allow ourselves to fully feel the feeling. We tighten our chest and heart muscles...reach for a distraction...hold resentments...give meaning to the situation based on past experiences (e.g., "Of course that happened, I never get what I want.")...and judge others and ourselves.
Many things do pass through us, such as the trees that we pass as we are driving along a highway. Michael describes how the image of the trees comes in through our senses, they make a momentary impression but then the impression is released. "When you have no personal issues with them, impressions process freely." (T.U.S., p. 51) But if you were driving along a highway and you saw something disturbing, it might not pass through...it might leave an impression (i.e., the energy that came in might stay stuck).
I believe that young children let most events pass through (even the painful ones) because they have not yet learned to block their feelings and to hold onto events, and, because they allow themselves to fully touch the feelings. They experience what is happening in each moment and then they let the impressions pass through so that they are fully present in the next moment. This may be why young children have so much energy and joy. They do not lay awake at night thinking about how so and so stole their doll and what they are going to do about it! They felt the sadness/pain of the experience in the moment and they let it go.
Might it be possible for you to live this way?
Michael says that "Experiences are gifts that are being given to you...awakening and stimulating you...having a profound effect on you...Your heart and mind are expanding and you are being touched at a very deep level." (T.U.S., p. 51). By blocking experiences from passing through you, you miss the opportunity to learn and grow from them.
I think that we are so used to keeping ourselves emotionally comfortable that we close our hearts and block the energies from passing more frequently than we realize. When the little disturbances happen throughout the day (such as when someone doesn't return your phone call or someone walks by without saying hello), do you allow the inner disturbance to be felt and released? Or do you move to fix the situation on the outside or fix the inner disturbance (rationalizing, judging...)?
The pain happens because we give meaning to situations. This meaning is the roommate talking, not the observer. You do not need to listen to the roommate and give meaning to events. There is no meaning to be given. Life is just happening. It is not all about you. People will do what people will do. Your life will unfold as your life will unfold.
When the roommate is feeling pain, move your awareness to the observer. At this point it is so important to relax the heart and chest so that the energy can pass. When you do this you are removing the blockages (i.e., limiting beliefs) that keep you from experiencing the true miracle that you are. Allow situations to pass through you by fully experiencing each moment and then choosing to relax and let it go.
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